Ten Texting Rules for Dating Singles – Texting Guidelines and Dating Etiquette – Surviving Dating!
I came across a 2009 investigate released by the PEW Internet Project that found 66% of American mobile subscribers inbetween the ages of 30-49 use text messaging. Use of texting spil the primary method of communication is growing te popularity ter every age group under 45. Last summer Nielson Mobile Research reported that a typical mobile user sent 357 text messages vanaf month, but made or received only 204 phone calls.
What I don’t get about texting is why people want to spend Three minutes hunting, pecking and fighting to send a text when they could make a 30 2nd call and be done with it?
I don’t stand alone te my way of thinking! I’ve found that texting is generally seen spil a nuisance for people overheen the age of 40. For one thing, most of us have fingers that are NOT bony. Those little lil’ buttons on the cell phones are ridiculously puny. Plus, many of us have to find our reading glasses so wij can even SEE the damn keyboard anyway!Women have the toegevoegd challenge of long and/or fake fingernails. Glamourous, sexy, make your palms look good. However, they have absolutely no traction on those little lil’ plastic buttons on a cell phone keypad.
So then why is there so much hesitation when it comes to picking up the phone? Has texting become the newest addition to the list of “if you can’t hit ’em, join ’em?”
I believe the growing preference for texting has a loterijlot to do with its impersonal nature. It’s much lighter to launch a fresh relationship by exchanging texts than it is to talk. It’s also very effortless to say and do things overheen a screen that one would never have the nerve to do face to face (or say ear to ear). That would make things lighter I suppose, but it also creates fresh problems. A large part of communication is non-verbal. When texting, the other party cannot receive those fine nuances of communication such spil tone of voice, held back sniggers, excited breathing, or bod language that demonstrates anxiety, happiness or growing irritation
Texting it seems, is here to stay, but there needs to be some rules ter place. After listening to dozens of complaints from friends, coworkers, and family about their relationships and texting, I came up with “Deborrah’s Ten Texting Rules For Dating Singles.”
#1 Do Share Updates or Ask for Ordinary Instructions. On your way but missed your train? Texting to update your date on your revised arrival time is a considerate thing to do. On your way to the store and can’t recall what you are supposed to pick up for dinner at hier place? Receiving a texted shopping list can be a life and relationship saver! Had a superb very first date? Texting the day after to say, “Wow, I had a indeed superb time with you!” is a low key, no pressure way to express appreciation for someone’s time.
#Two Never, Everzwijn Text While on a Date. You’d think everyone would know this already, but I guess common sense ain’t positivo common! Texting while ter a face-to-face conversation is just spil rude spil blabbing away on a call. If you’re on a date and you want to see that person again, don’t sit there texting (or Twittering) the entire time, or part of the time, or even at all. That includes your best friend attempting to sneakily find out how things are going, the Masters of Electronically Transmitted Whining (the kids), or an angry ex who eyed you and your date te the restaurant parking lotsbestemming. Manners and courtesy vereiste reign supreme.
#Trio Texts Should Never Substitute Verdadero Conversation. Texting is only for transmitting unimportant information or brief and plain messages, not an in-depth conversation. More than four texts te a row… it’s time to pick up the phone. Middle aged fingers and arms cramp lightly, okay!? Oh, and if you notice that you are having most of your relationship via texting, you need to stir things along to the face to face level or just end it. Like I said, the inherently impersonal nature of texting permits someone to “keep ter touch” and keep fantasies of a relationship alive, but maintain emotional distance by never spending time with you. I’ve known guys to do a cut and paste type of thing and send the same text to a dozen women at almost the same time. It’s a time-saving way to personages a broad televisiekanaal and see who will let him come overheen for hook-up. Women should not make it so effortless to be used for uncommitted booty calls.
#Four Does Anyone Care But You? Do not send text after text describing your every stir, every conversation, or every thought. The fact that your coworker wasgoed late for the 10th time this month is of no importance to anyone but you. Get it? Unless what you are texting involves the recipient te some manner, and is very urgent (or at least a funny joke to pauze up our day), then don’t send a text.
#Five Do Not Send Compromising Photos. Are people thesis days crazy? What ter the world is going on with this “sexting” stuff? Why do masculines think it adequate to send roede pictures to random women they aren’t intimate with and sometimes don’t even know? Why would females send pictures of naked assets parts (including their genitalia) overheen cell phones? Youthfull ladies, not only is such behavior classless, it’s ridiculously dangerous. And if the sender or receiver of a sexually oriented text is a minor, it’s also illegal.
The long-term repercussions of this type of liberate attitude about one’s assets has worried mij for a long time. Women are likely to be abased to detect that they are the brunt of jokes, spil guys will often share the sexy texts they get from random women with their mates and have a good laugh. You’ll then be labeled, and it won’t be flattering. Think before you act.
#6 If You’ve Bot Drinking, Back Away From the Keypad! People will say and do things with firewater ter their systems that they would NEVER do if sober. What types of things have I heard you ask? Sexual invitations to people known to have no rente, fights from months ago renewed with vigor due to unresolved anger, individual questions asked and private information volunteered ter a straight bonehead budge. Liquid courage does that to people! However wijngeest doesn’t waterput ideas into our goes, a little booze undoubtedly relaxes the constraints wij have ter place on our throats and evidently our fingers. So, if you’ve bot to glad hour(s), or had a few martini’s at huis, do not send anyone a text. Your texting privileges are revoked until you are 100% sober.
Also significant to reminisce is that some folks don’t do well with breakups and their vindictiveness spews forward like an erupting volcano. Your photos or movies could end up anywhere on the Internet, te a tv-programma, movie, or te a photo composite with someone else’s assets doing something awful, topped off by YOUR FACE.
#7 Don’t Expect Instant Gratification. Do not get upset if you don’t get a reply back within seconds of sending a text. People overheen the age of 25 usually have full-time jobs, families, and things to do that involve their mitts, including cooking, typing, and driving. They’ll come back your communication with a text or a phone call when they can and only if they want to. Texting is sometimes used spil a instrument to avoid honesty, with texting you can react if and when you feel like it. You can measure your words and provide half answers… you can even pick and choose which questions to reaction. One should also reminisce that technology is excellent, but not volmaakt. I’ve sent texts that didn’t arrive at their destination for 45 minutes to several hours! I’ve also had the same problem with receiving transmissions sent to mij by others.
#8 Always Be Aware of Your “Tone of Voice” and Communication Style.It’s difficult to discern the sender’s tone te text messages, just spil it is te e-mail. What may be meant spil humorous sarcasm, or a entirely innocuous message to you may be lightly misinterpreted by the recipient of your text. Such miscommunication can cause hurt feelings and unnecessary pressure, and require an unbelievable amount of apologizing and explaining to fix. Te some instances it will cost you the relationship. Witness the shorthand and acronyms spil well. Not everyone is up on the textn lingo neway, and year msg may leave sum1 scraping their head te confusion sayn L8tr4u vs ROFLMBAO.
#9 Asking for Dates by Text is a No-No. Texting to set-up a date is bogus! Have the courage to speak up and risk rejection like a big boy or dame. Yeah, I know you’re a latest returnee to the dating toneel, talking to someone you don’t know well feels awkward, and asking for a date when you might hear “no!” is scary. But one of the top qualities singles seek is a certain fucking partner that goes after what he or she wants. Certain, secure people have an air about them that is very sexy… passive, hesitant, insecure people do not. Plus, no one everzwijn died from being turned down for a date.
#Ten Do Not Pauze It Off By Text. Neither do you use Twitter, Facebook, AIM, My Space, messenger, email or fax. Use of any form of informal, emotionally disconnected electronic communication to dump someone is chickenshit, immature and feeble. If you opt to treat other people te such a way, don’t be astonished when your text is waterput on blast and completes up on Twitter, Facebook, My Space and every message forum ter the world. Be an adult whydon’tcha, and tell people via phone (at least) that you two are not a match and you’re moving on.
Text messaging isn’t necessarily a contraption of the satan, but there can be finta a bit of misinterpretation and miscommunication if not used correctly. Texting is a fine way to stay connected to someone you are madly te love with, and a useful implement to touch pulvínulo with casual or fresh dating fucking partners. However, texting is not and never will be a replacement for a heart-felt telephone conversation total of breathes and laughter.
Utilizing the Ten texting rules set out above will permit you to love the joy and flirty aspects of date texting, and help you avoid the minefields!