Tips for a very first date with someone you met online
The Garter Brides — Ann Blumenthal Jacobs, Patricia Ryan Lampl, and Tish Rabe — have interviewed innumerable women for our book, LOVE FOR GROWN-UPS: The Garter Brides’ Guide to Marrying For Life When You’ve Already Got a Life, and have asked our thousands of Facebook ventilatoren to share their practices and advice for a successful online ‘very first’ date. Wij compiled this list and would love to hear from you, too!
Good old fashioned voeling
Make sure that all your voeling hasn’t bot overheen email before your very first meeting. There is something compelling about hearing someone’s voice. It gives you a feel for the person and is less detached than email. You are looking for an in-person relationship! Also, let him know texting is no way to communicate with you. Need wij say more? If a man is texting like he’s a tiener, let him know he should pick up the phone! You can’t get to know someone ter 148-character messages.
Safety very first
ALWAYS let someone close to you know who you are going out with and where you’ll be going. One woman said she always texts a friend and leaves the phone number of where she’ll be on the kitchen tegenstoot.
Have a project
Determine what you want to do on the very first date. Some Garter Brides have collective with us that they are more comfy doing something active on the very first meeting. Wij feel that that’s a little risky time wise because if it’s not working, you might feel trapped. Now, on the 2nd date it’s a indeed good idea. Go to an exhibit, hear some jazz, kasstuk some roller pouch – you’ll both feel less jumpy and will have more to talk about.
Keep things brief & sweet
Keep the very first date to an hour. Even if you have to pretend to have another appointment or need to be huis at a certain hour – do that. Reminisce the adage ",Leave ’em wanting more?", It’s true! If there’s chemistry there, you can spend more time on the 2nd date getting to know each other.
Be ready for the very first date! Make sure you look your best. Look tastefully sexy. It will boost your confidence and permit you to relieve and concentrate on meeting someone fresh.
Take it slow
Don’t get to know one another by re-hashing your history. You may be furious with your ex, and spil much spil wij know it’s significant to vent all this stuff, don’t do it on a very first date. He has a history too and he’s most likely got some unhappy stories spil well, but playing therapist or sounding houtvezelplaat to one another is not a good begin. Keep your bashing for your girlfriends. And don’t let him unload on you about his ex. A good way of treating an awkward ogenblik is telling something like, ",Telling each other stories about our exes won’t switch anything and I’d rather know more about you.",
Ditch the gadgets
Waterput any and all electronics on stimulate. If you have a oppas and need to know if you get a call, let him know that. Waterput the phone on stimulate so you can check it, but whatever you do, don’t response it unless it’s an emergency.
Let him down effortless
If you indeed feel there is no chemistry after your very first meeting, let him know. You’d want to know how he feels about you. The Garter Brides are ventilatoren of providing everyone a 2nd date chance (no one has very first date jitters on the 2nd date!), but, if you know it will go nowhere, be a grown-up. Tell him that you don’t feel this is a good getraind for you and wish him the best. Yes, that’s hard to do, but you’d want to know if he felt that way and not proceed to have expectations that won’t be met.
Recall, everyone you meet is looking for the same thing you are – someone to have a fulfilling, joy and romantic relationship with! One date can switch your life!